Asheville’s speed dating and networking experts weigh in.

The hardest part about dating is showing up, says Katherine Morosani, who founded Original Asheville Speed Dating two years ago with business partner Sharon Fenchak. The pair hosts monthly two-hour speed dating events that cost $20, and, as Valentine’s Day approaches, their events fill up. Morosani, whose day job is in e-business for Volvo Construction Equipment, also runs monthly Ladies Who Lunch networking luncheons, an ironic group name, since many women she knows never leave their desks for lunch, much less take a break to meet people.   

For time-crunched singles, or really anyone looking to make a meaningful connection, Morosani and Fenchak offer these pointers: 

Never misrepresent yourself. Outside of the usual stuff—understating your age or overstating your income—there are even more devious ways to mislead. Like married men who show up looking for dates. Asheville is a small town, says Morosani. People will eventually figure it out.

Show up mentally as well as physically. Listen to what the other person is saying instead of just nodding your head. And remember, everyone is as nervous as you.

Know your deal-breakers, but ask about them tactfully. Asking if he smokes is fine, but asking if he wants to be the father of your child is not. If it’s an easy deal-breaker—he hates cats, but you have three—there’s no need to waste your time and energy. Move on.

Temper your expectations and make your own fun. It’s up to you to offer conversation, ask questions and get what you want out of the experience. “People with great personalities win at speed dating,” says Fenchak. It helps to think about what you want beforehand.

Don’t blow people off. If something doesn’t work out, at least communicate with the person and follow up. “You never know who people know,” Morosani says. Someone may not be right for a date, but they could introduce you to Mr. or Mrs. Right. In the meantime, they might also make a good friend.

Hurry! Call 828-274-6934 or visit www.avlspeeddating.com.